So for the better part of 2 years, my ex and I have been on amicable terms. We were getting along and everything was ok with our kids. However, he thought it meant more, and I was just trying to get to a point where we could get along and show him that we could get along. He thinks I led him on. Nothing ever happened between us, physically but he still contends that I was leading him on. During this time, he had every other weekend with the kids and every Wednesday night. If the kids had a birthday party, we would all go and pick out the present then we would all go to the birthday party. Everything was fine, until it wasn’t. We would fight about stupid, silly things. One night in late June, he told me to just go ahead and reschedule mediation. So, I did just that, and that is when everything changed. He grew very bitter to me, and would not even discuss anything with me. He is so angry at me, and for what? B/c he thinks I led him on. I didn’t lead him on. I wasn’t sleeping with him and making him think we were going to get back together, and then one day, just stop. Anyway, he has now made it impossible to go back to the time when things were amicable. He has filed for sole primary custody and joint legal custody. What blows my mind is that for the first 18 months of separation, he wouldn’t even take the kids overnight, yet now he wants them full-time. What is it with men? They think their actions have no ramifications? I am not saying all men, but those I have encountered. Perhaps, I just have a shitty taste in men. You know the phrase, “marry up?” Yea, I didn’t do that. I married someone who I thought was always going to be a laid back person and go with the flow. The problem is, he is this person, nothing really bothers him, including not working or trying to support his family, and here in lies the issue. We had a good thing going. I worked, while he got to mess around with his friends, and have the bachelor life, except he wasn’t a bachelor, he had two kids and a wife. Anyway, court is the next week for a whole bunch of things…and I just can’t believe it has come to this. Have you ever heard of a mom having to fight her unfit ex for her kids? or have to pay spousal support b/c he didn’t work for so long? Justice system is jacked…I provide for my kids and work for their benefit, but may lose half of them b/c he sat on his butt and slacked off…how is that fair?